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The Sex Gods Favor The Bold
July 27th, 2010
You are a NFL Head Coach and you are faced with a dilemma.
There are six minutes left in the 4th quarter and you are down by four points.
Your team is at the 50 yard line and you are looking at a 4th and 2.
What are you going to do?
Will you punt and hope you get another shot or will you go for it and live with the consequences? Read the rest of this entry “
Don’t Be a Flower Dude
July 19th, 2010
Back in the Leave it to Beaver days, it was customary when a gentleman took a young lady out he would come to her door with a dozen roses and a box of chocolates.
It was his way of “courting” her and impressing her family. Fast forward to 2010 where Rick Ross is considering “love making” music and things have change a little bit.
Men have changed and women have changed. Read the rest of this entry “
Fellas Are You ReggieWayning???
July 15th, 2010
Before you start you have to read this to understand where the phrase “reggiewayning” comes from.
Natasha McKenzie Accused of Stealing $93,000 From Colts Star Reggie Wayne, She Claims Affair
A lot of people believe when I am talking about reggiewayning I am saying you should never spend money on a woman.
That would be untrue. Read the rest of this entry “
Don’t Be a “Moist Dude”
July 13th, 2010
People wrongly assume when I am talking about moist dudes I am speaking about the physical aspects of being a man, but they are wrong.
Being moist is a mentality, and it is a mentality that is doing great destruction to the male species.
Moistness in men, is very easy to spot.
The number #1 trait of a moist dude?
OVERLY SENSITIVE
Men shouldn’t really care what people think of us, if you are your own man and you are doing you, how you are perceived by people outside of your inner circle shouldn’t mean anything.
Moist dudes on the other hand, overreact to everything you say to them. They lash out, name call, use the word “HATER” a lot and get emotional.
When you are overly sensitive it means you are insecure. Insecurity leads to moist like actions. The following is a list of actions you can use as a guide in spotting ‘moist‘ dudes:
Insecure men like to slap around women and think that makes them a man.
Insecure men like to sucker punch dudes when it is 10 to 1 in their favor.
Insecure have a lot of “keyboard courage” when they can hide behind a computer monitor.
Calling women bitches, hoes, basic, sluts and etc. because she won’t give you her number that is moist.
Moist dudes are followers I like to call them:
Mason Betha types
As Jay Z said:
“Check your own video you will always be number 2.”
Men shouldn’t be groupies. You shouldn’t be tweeting Joe Budden 30 times in the hopes he acknowledges your tweet. You shouldn’t be defending grown men who don’t even know you exist. You shouldn’t show up one week on Club Pics rocking “All Black Everything” like Jay Z and the next week you in skinny jeans and a scarf in the summer like you Kanye West.
At that point you are no different than a woman throwing her panties on stage for Trey Songz, you are moist.
There is supposed to be a competitive fire in men. Most men want to be #1, we don’t want to be Farnsworth Bentley. Are you Ronnie Devoe or are you Bobby Brown? At least try to be Ralph. Kanye West maybe arrogant and rude, but I respect that he wasn’t cool with being Memphis Bleek Part Deux. Being afraid to be the man is #moist.
Men shouldn’t fawn over women.
It’s moist to profess your love for the first girl eliminated on Ocho’s Ultimate Catch.
Bathwaterslurping is moist and women don’t respect that.
You want to know if you are a moist dude in regards to women? Use this simple mathematical equation.
If you have 10 female friends, how many do you confidently think you could break lamps with if the opportunity presented itself and how many talk to you about the guys they break lamps with.
If you are normal guy that should be around 5, but even if it is 4 that isn’t bad, but if it is 1 or 0 you are a moist dude.
Every woman you meet is not going to be sexually attracted to, but if you are always the “buddy”, you “moist”.
Women are reading this article hoping their “moist” male friends aren’t reading because they don’t want to lose their shoe shopping partner.
Your name maybe Derek, but women know you as:
DUNCAN HINES
Moist dudes are trying to “make love”, real dudes trying to slap ass, pull hair and break lamps.
You make love to your wife, not Tayrn from Pod 29.
Men shouldn’t whine or complain. No one wants to hear your “sob” story about how no one likes you or how women always do you wrong. No one wants to hear that no one listens to your demo or your restaurant you been planning to open for two years. No one want to hear you be negative about everything and ever situation imaginable. Non moist dudes don’t have time to complain and whine, you know why?
Because they are working.
As a man there are some things you can be moist about, your kids and your family that’s it. Anything else is over the top.
Men shouldn’t be drama filled.
I will admit when “Bad Rob” comes out from time and I have to shut down a MySpace Model or random idiot, I am just encouraging the “drama” that is “moist” on my part.
But for the most part, men should stay away from drama and gossip.
Men shouldn’t care about who Kim Kardashian is dating or if T.O. only dates Spanish women. The important word to take from that last sentence is ‘care’.
We can talk about, we can give our opinions on it, but we shouldn’t care. When Lebron left the Cavs and men were crying, burning jerseys and were sincerely hurt this guy who plays basketball left their town that is “ultra moist”.
When Dan Gilbert wrote his infamous letter, yes it was ether but it was ether dripped in “moistness”.
Moistness is based off emotion.
Not saying men shouldn’t be emotional, but you shouldn’t get emotional over a Kobe vs. Jordan debate or Nas vs. Jay Z or because your favorite video model is sleeping with Plies or because your chick wants to screw Drake.
That is just wasted energy and wasted emotion.
So when you are feeling moist fellas, just take a deep breath, sip on some Capri Sun and turn the AC on full blast. Trust me ladies like it when it’s cooler.
The Definition of a NoHo
July 10th, 2010
“We aint no hoes or nothin but I have sum friends willing to get down if paid so wut yall tryna do?”
They say in life there are specific snapshots that determine our legacy. When I received the text above (copied verbatim) on March 12th 2009 2:53pm Central Standard Time it changed my legacy. It is that text that sparked the entire idea for this website.
Up to then I was just your normal average Bona Fide Sports Expert Robert Littal planning a Las Vegas trip with my friends Killa Camaro Carl, Sam the African, Mr. White, Jon Julian & Sugar Sean to see Ricky Hatton fight Manny Pacquiao.
After I got the text I went over to Sam the African in amazement and said the following:
“Hey Sam the African they said they not hoes but they are offering sex for cash.”
Sam the African replied:
“They not hoes, but the rent is due.”
That is when it hit me. What do you call a ho who rationalizes her hoeing decision as the ends justifies the means? What do you call a ho who isn’t a ho 100% of time but only when necessary and it beneficial to her?
That is when I went back and looked at the text and it became clear:
First let state the obvious everyone has NoHo Tendencies. Doesn’t matter your race, age, gender, sexual orientation and etc we have all No Hoed it up in our life. If you don’t believe that you are lying to yourself.
Someone asked me why I normally use the phrase NoHo to describe women, but not men. The answer to that is simple most men don’t rationalize their hoeing actions. We embrace that fact that we are hoes. We might use a different name to describe it (pimps, playas, ballers), but the fact of the matter most men are hoes and proud of it.
Women on the other hand try to explain their hoish tendencies away, lets break down the text again:
“We aint no hoes or nothing but I have sum friends willing to get down if paid so wut yall tryna do? “
The young lady in question before anything else claims “we ain’t no hoes” before stating “willing to get down if paid”.
Just read that sentence again and it is comical, it would be the equivalent of me saying:
“We ain’t no criminals or nothing, but I have sum friends willing to go along with a bank robbery if we get paid so wut yall tryna do”
I know what you are thinking.
“Nohos? That must be a hood rat thing.”
Not at all NoHos come in all walks of life here are just a few examples:
“Corporate NOHO”
The young lady at your office who wears the tightest business skirts known to man. Always gets to go to lunch with the boss. Work never gets criticized but somehow gets promoted.
“MySpace/Facebook/Twitter/Message Board NOHO”
This attention whore who has two millions friends and has a bunch of “bath water slurping” dudes at her beck and call. The type of girl who announces she is going to Taco Bell so one of the “bath water” dudes can put $10 in her PayPal.
“Internet Model NOHO”
An offspring of the MySpace NoHo except they turned it into an actual profession To illustrate how Internet Modeling NoHoing maybe the slickest game of them all, let me tell you a story.
There is this internet model named Montana. Very pretty and definitely an interesting young lady. She has five kids. When the 5th kid was close to being born she set up a baby registry for her “bath water slurping” fans. The chick did a web cam video with the father of baby showing off the fact the “bath water” dudes had bought all of her baby furniture and the damn not one, not two, but three baby seats.
That is “Yoda” level NoHoing.
I could go on and on from “Gold digging NoHo” to “Born Again Virgin NoHo”. No matter the type of female you meet she has a “NoHo” twin (and it is probably her).
Another one of my favorite NoHos:
“I am not a groupie but I have slept with the entire New York Knicks and Mike D’Antoni NoHo”
The South Carolina governor who got caught cheating what did he have?
AN INTERNATIONAL NOHO
What did Bill Clinton have?
AN ORAL SEX INTERN NOHO
What happened to Kobe in Colorado?
A CRAZY ASS WHITE GIRL NOHO
Men love Nohos. The reason is simple they are not complicated. We don’t care how they rationalize what they are doing we just care that we are getting what we want out the deal.
But you have to be careful because Nohos are hustlers and you don’t want to be the guy buying the baby seat for the other guy.
Tell the Nohos what you want and ask what it is going to take to get it done. This brings us back to the original text:
“We aint no hoe’s or nothing but I have sum friends willing to get down if paid so wut yall tryna do? “
So you are probably wondering what happened with the “The Origin NoHo” and her crew in Vegas. You know the phrase “What Happens in Vegas Stay in Vegas” of course you do, so I can’t tell you everything, but here is what I can tell you.
It wasn’t quite The Hangover, but someone woke up in the shower, a bottle of Hennessey was under the bed, weed may have been involved, someone fell down a flight of stairs, I may have strip for a Bachelorette party (a little fuzzy on that), Lee Cordova (you had to be there to understand), a MySpace exposing (that was funny), a baby was left at the Stratosphere hotel with a “Grocery Guy” (I am not lying about that) & I cannot confirm or deny the existence of a video of the events.
Love those NoHos.
The Origin of Breaking Lamps
July 10th, 2010The month July, the year 2008 and the location Santa Monica, California. After shooting a commercial (watch the commercial at the end of this article) and enjoying a dinner at PF Changs (yes even before twitter and before the #nohos I was repping The Chang) me and a young lady we will call “Little D” (names are withheld to protect the guilty) made our way back to The Ambrose hotel for a “boxing match”.
The young lady in question was 21 years old, recently broke up with her boyfriend of four years and was in prime condition to just devour some unsuspecting dude.
I on the other hand at the time was 29 years old and showing signs of being past my prime (#ladaintomlinsondude?). Add on to the fact that I hadn’t played Bed Gammon for awhile and was coming from a 12 hour commercial shoot it was obvious who had the advantage in this match up.
But I am an old champ and since “Sex is like Boxing” I thought I was ready for her 1st round onslaught until while I was getting my #snoopdog on she screamed out:
“PULL MY M*THERF*CKIN HAIR!!”
This was before I had developed my #lacefront alerts, so I was a little taken back by her demands, but I am able to adapt in the ring, so I switch from #cinemaxafterdark to #mrmarcus sans the fitted cap.
She tried to make me tap out in the Scorpion position, but I just #spidermanned my way out of that situation.
Everything was going well. I was bobbing and weaving. Throwing hooks and jabs making sure to go to the body.
Looked like I was going to get a decision until she went all Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct and decided to pull out some handcuffs and lock me up.
At that point two things were going to happen either I was going to get robbed a la George on Seinfeld or the boxing match was going to be over pretty quickly.
Turns out it would be the latter.
As she finished very similar to Sharon Stone she swung her arms and unbeknown to me the Ambrose lamps were not bolted down and that is when I uttered the famous phrase that I didn’t know a year later would help spark a revolution:
“You know it is good sex when you break lamps”
The definition of Break Lamps is simple all it means it is damn good sex.
If you are biting the pillow so hard that Forensic Files could ID you from the impression you have “broken lamps”.
If you can’t remember you own name after sex you have “broken lamps”.
If the agree upon price was $250 and the #noho left with $500 you have “broken lamps”.
If you wake up the new morning and realize all your money and credit cards are gone and you #kanyeshrug you have “broken lamps”.
If your #lacefront is lying on the bed beside you and not on your head you have “broken lamps”.
If your flight was schedule to leave on Sunday and you stay to Tuesday you have “broken lamps”.
If you used the lord name in combination with several curse words you have “broken lamps”.
If you aren’t breaking lamps in 2009 I feel for you because there is no excuse for bad sex. It is like being hungry and going to the buffet and all they have is salad. Not exactly what you had in mind.
Step your sex game and break something.
Sex is Like Boxing
July 8th, 2010
Fellas sex is like boxing and lets be real none of us are undefeated. Many suffered a lot of first round knockouts, but that is about to change.
It is time we stop being “Glass Joe” and start being the champ.
Make no mistake, women hold the belts. They have what we want. They are the star attraction.
We are contenders who have to fight our way up the ranks (dates, gifts, long conversations we don’t want to have, going to her stupid family BBQ & etc) to get that title shot.
Some boxers only get one title shot so you have to make the most of your opportunity when it comes.
I am going to take you through a training camp like you never been through before and when we are done you will be calling yourself the “Greatest of All-Time” and she will be begging you for a rematch.
You will be the champ and women from all over will be dying to get in the ring with you.
Just call me Cus D’amato. Time to get to work.
1- What type of boxer are you?
Fellas you have to know your strengths and weaknesses. You have to play to your strengths and mask your weaknesses. Don’t try to be a super hero. If your going into a battle with someone who has a good right hand and you know you’ve been knocked out before by right hands. The lesson is simple stay away from the right hand.
If you were knocked out in your five previous bouts when the woman has been on top of you then please by any means necessary don’t let that be the first position she gets you in.
If you have a hard time going 12 rounds you might have to take a round or two off in the middle. Get you some water or something.
You know your style better than anyone else. Don’t try to be Mike Tyson if your skill set is more suited to be Floyd Mayweather. Be smart and honest about who you are.
2- No two boxers are the same.
Fellas you have to understand what worked on one female doesn’t necessarily work on all.
Females, like boxers, come in many varieties. Southpaws, tall, short, heavyweights, lightweights, defensive, aggressive and etc.
If you try to fight them all the same way, yeah, you might win a few, but more than likely you are going to get KOed because you didn’t train properly.
You have to observe your opponent. Understand what she likes and doesn’t like. Most women don’t agree to title bouts on short notice (unless the money is right of course) so you will have some time.
Don’t be afraid to ask her what her weaknesses are. Create your game plan around her as opposed to just “doing what you do”. Women want to lose the belt; they will help you if you let them.
3- Take a couple of rounds to feel her out
Dudes get KOed quick when they just come in the ring swinging. Women are good with counter punching so if you come wild she will shut you down quick and you will not get a rematch.
You have to feel them out. There is a skill to this because this isn’t the Young and The Restless; no woman wants a guy dancing around the ring for 12 rounds.
So when I say feel her out I mean literally feel her out. What are a boxer’s best tools?
HANDS
No different in the bedroom; use your hands to feel all over her body. Offer massages, head rubs, foot rubs, temple rubs and etc.
I call it TTC
Touch, Tease and Caress.
This serves two purposes.
One it gives your body a little bit of time to calm down and two, women are like old cars, sometimes it takes them a minute to get warmed up.
Don’t be afraid to take a “dive”. Between her legs that is. If you do it correctly by the time the real boxing starts she may take a literal dive and hand over the belt without much resistance.
4- Stick and move
If you did the “feeling out process” at some point she is going to be ready to fight and this is where you are going to win and lose the title so pay close attention.
Unless the chick is absolutely horrible in the ring, you are going to get hit and you are going to get hit hard.
You have to be able to take a punch, but don’t get involved in a brawl you can’t win.
You have to stick and move. Women don’t like to be bored and this is to our advantage. They don’t want you laying on them for 30 minutes in the missionary position just sweating. This is when you have to man up and take control of the fight.
So you hitting it, she hitting back and as soon as she hits you with a blow that stuns, you must:
A- Change Positions
You have to be slick with this. You were knocking it out on the ropes then you got hit with a counter punch so you need to get off the ropes. Now this is in the heat of the action so you have to do it seamlessly.
You have to man up and physically move her. If you were hitting from the back turn her over. If she was on top and you are on your back sit up and wrap her legs around you (personal favorite of mine). If your on top move to a 45 degree angle scissors position.
Doesn’t matter what you do, but get yourself in a different spot. By changing positions your brain will need time to tell your “other brain” what is going on, which in turn will allow you to survive the round.
Females like this because now you are in round 10 and it has been back and forth action. Crowd is on their feet.
5- The Roll
I use to deal with a young lady that shall remain nameless. She use to allow me to do all my feeling, sticking and moving, diving and etc. Then because she is a woman and she was the champ around the 10th round:
BAM!!!!!!!
Never saw the punch coming and the fight was over. Nothing worse than winning a fight for 10 rounds and then ending up flat on your back like Ricky Hatton.
So I went back to my trainer (which is me) and was like how can I combat this?
That is when I came up with “The Roll”.
If you made it to the 10th round you have done a hell of a job and you are probably going to get a rematch, but you still don’t hold the belt. If you have an ego like me you want to be the champ and “The Roll” will ensure that happens.
By the 10th round I understand you are tired, you are hurting and you are running out of gas, but these are the championship rounds so just hang in there.
Women can sense weakness and smell blood in the water, so she is going to try to knock you out. Don’t believe a woman won’t sit around with her girlfriends telling them how she had you gasping for air after she hit you with the knockout punch.
So when that big punch comes simply:
ROLL
Nothing complicated, just roll. Doesn’t matter where you roll to, the floor, side of the bed, outside, it doesn’t matter just roll. Knock over something in the process.
Something about rolling turns a woman on. Something very primal about having such intense sex that you are falling all over the place.
Lovemaking is great, but breaking furniture while having sex tells her you are into her so much that you simply do not care about anything except making her orgasm.
No woman can resist that.
If you roll properly she will submit and you will be crowned the champ.
*Bonus*
“Don’t be Buster Douglas”
For one night Buster Douglas was focused, prepared and determined to be the champ and on that night he knocked out Mike Tyson.
As soon as he got the belt he went back to being the same lazy, unprepared Buster Douglas he was before and got knocked out.
Anybody can have one good night but fellas try to be a long term champ for your ladies.
The whole point of this article fellas is that after the match is over both of you should be exhausted giving each other a hug in the middle of the ring and be dying to fight again.
Black Men + White Women = Truth
July 7th, 2010
You might not like what I am about to write, but it needs to be written and I think I am uniquely qualified to handle this subject.
Until I was 14 years old the only white women I ever saw was at my mom’s job. Then I was shipped off to a private catholic predominantly white High School where in four years there was only seven black girls that attended the school (and they weren’t cute). From that point I moved on to The Ohio State University the second biggest university in the United States. In my four and half years there I was expose to every type of woman known to man.
I grew up in the hood (Natural Bridge & Kingshighway in STL ask about me) & now have lived in the Burbs of STL for the last five years. I’ve been in the music industry & now currently in the sports media. Two of the most corrupt industries in regards to how women are treated regardless of race.
I have traveled from coast to coast. North, South, East and West I have seen it all.
I have friends who might have gotten married strippers pregnant and friends who are just like “Tiger Woods”.
I have dealt with females of a broad spectrum. From the bottom of the bottom to the top of the top.
So when I break this down I am basing this off years of not just my experience but the observations of others. There are four main reasons why black men deal with white women (when I talk about white women I am talking about any woman that isn’t black) and I am about to share them with you. You may or may not agree with them and you can feel free to comment below:
Reason #1- White women are easier to deal with than black women.
This could be considered an urban legend, but the perception for some black men is that black women are difficult to deal with.
Another way to look at that is that black women won’t put up with as much BS, but since we are talking about men we will stick with what they think.
These black men think that white women are easier to get, easier to manipulate and easier to seduce.
As my friend James told me once:
“With a white girl when I tell her I am going out all she tells me is to be careful and never blows up my phone. With a black girl she is constantly paranoid and it gets old. I rather keep a white girl and just screw around with black girls they are too much to deal with.”
It doesn’t appear to be any “hate” toward the black woman just more of these black men believe it will be easier not to deal with them.
This type of black man has no problem “breaking lamps” with a black woman or hanging with a black woman but when it comes to “relationships” he will take, in his mind the easier route of dealing with a white woman.
Now how accurate this assumption, that white women are easier to deal with is up for debate, but there are black men who truly believe it.
Reason #2: White Women are all they know.
I call this the “Tiger Effect”. You are a product of your environment regardless of your race. Black or not if all you see around you 24/7 are white women you will probably be more inclined to date white women.
When I was in high school all that was around me were white girls. So I had dated white girls. It wasn’t that I didn’t like black girls it was that I didn’t have any to choose from.
Of course when I got out of high school my selection expanded, but for some black men it never does. If you grew up around white girls, went to school around white girls you probably going to prefer white girls.
I have absolutely no issue with that. It is just a preference normally not breed out of anything against black women.
Reason #3: Black Men that want to be white.
This is the most disturbing reason. There are some black men who just don’t want to be associated with being black. So they do everything they can to disassociate themselves away from their race.
One major way to do that is to have a white woman on their arm. Their reasons for dating white women have more to do with how they feel about their race as oppose to their preference of women.
These type of black men say things like this:
“I would never date a black woman I don’t want to seem ghetto.”
Of course I believe these black men should be punched in the mouth, but I digress. Personally I don’t care what a man’s preference of woman, but to exclude a race, based on your own self hate is very weak minded.
These type of black men rarely have anything positive to say about black women instead they constantly looking for negative aspects about them.
In reality they are talking about themselves but they deflect their self hate on black women. Which if course says more about them as men than anything else.
They are so concerned with trying to be something they are not, that can’t see the good, not just in black women, but black people in general.
These are the type of black men who give other black men a bad reputation in regards to this debate.
Reason #4 – She is hot
There is this contention from some black women that:
“Black men should date within their race.”
That is foolishness. Men should date the best person for them regardless of race.
If there are two equal women in all areas and the last determination is looks, I am going with the woman who looks better.
On the flip side if two women looked exactly the same I am going to choose the woman who I feel is a better personality match for me regardless of race.
Sometimes it isn’t complicated it is just some black men are color blind when it comes to women.
It is just a peference nothing more, nothing less.
Once a black woman asked me:
“What race do you prefer?”
My answer:
“The Fine Race”
She seemed confused for a minute, but it triggered with her that I didn’t have a preferred race.
Some men just like women regardless of the shape, size or color.
I mean this in the bottom of my soul. If the earth was invaded by a race of green alien women I would be the first one trying to get my “pimp focus” on as long as she had a pretty smile and I could teach her about football.
Just call me Captain Kirk Littal.
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Hopefully that gives you some insight and you can feel free to weigh in on the topic either here or on the Break Lamps Twitter.
My Dissertation on Black Women
July 6th, 2010
What is ironic when I posted a picture of Reggie Bush on the cover of Essence shirtless on BlackSportsOnline I did it because I thought women would like it. Little did I know the controversy it would start.
I have Google alerts set up so I know any time people are talking about me or any of my various projects (you will be shocked how many people mention break lamps and nohos in a day).
In is very rare that a twitter conversation sets off an alert, but after the very long debate on the plight of the black women sparked by the Reggie Bush cover (Essence is a black woman magazine and many black women did not like the fact that the Bush was selected for the cover because he isn’t dating a black woman and the issue was on Black Love).
As the alerts kept coming in one thing became clear I was being portrayed as a:
“Sexiest misogynist black woman hating a-hole”
Instead of trying to answer every black woman as a whole I have decided to write my dissertation on Black Women.
I ask you to read with an open mind and feel free to make comments below.
1- Love should have no race attached to it.
It was just how I was raised. That love is color blind hence the phrases like “Black Love” has no meaning to me, but I think when black women say “black love” what they really mean is:
“Black Men have hate for Black Women, so we need more black love.”
I get that.
Black men who look down upon black women or think that dating/marrying women of a different race somehow makes them “better” have serious self esteem issues.
What those black men are saying is that they “hate themselves”. It more about the fact they don’t like what they see in the mirror and the project that attitude toward black women.
Unfortunately there are a lot of black men that feel that way, but I would counter that there are many more black men even if they do date outside their race do not do it as a slap in the face to black women, but like me they just like dating hot women regardless of color. If she is black great, if she is something else that is great to as long as she is nice and attractive.
Don’t let a few bad apples spoil the whole bunch.
2- Black Men shouldn’t be punished for trying the women buffett
This isn’t something I feel is exclusive to black men, but people in general. In some countries they have arrange marriages, now think to yourself how you would feel if your mate was already predetermined.
Some black men feel if they don’t date black women specifically that will be branded as the black man who turned his back on his race or who hates and devalues black women.
As I stated before there are black men who deserve this title, but for the ones who don’t it is a terrible burden to bear.
Some black men just like women. Doesn’t matter the race, because the only race that matters to me is the “Fine Race”.
No one should be told what preference they should have and shouldn’t be stereotype for whatever that preference is.
The only loyalty a black man should have in regardless to his relationships is to be the best man he can be to whoever he chooses to be with.
If black women choose to narrow there search to just black men that is fine, but don’t hold that against the black man who doesn’t do the same. That simply isn’t fair.
As I stated on Twitter. Just because I sample the women buffet table and you just want to eat chicken don’t be mad at me when I am full and you still are hungry because all the chicken has run out.
3- Why do you care who anyone dates?
Regardless if a black man doesn’t date black women because he hates them, he prefers others or he just happen to meet someone that wasn’t black why do you care?
I remember I was out with some buddies at Hooters once. I very attractive black woman walked in with a man who look just like Kevin Ferderline.
Immediately my friends were up in arms.
“How dare that black woman be with that white man there must be something wrong with her.”
I am calmly turned to them and simply said:
“Why do you care and why does something have to be wrong with her?”
The point I am making is worry about your own relationships and don’t make blanket assumptions on others.
Just because someone dates outside of their race doesn’t make them an alien or someone who hates their race.
Even if it did, it isn’t any of your business.
People in general are nosey and like to pass judgments. If they worried as much about uplifting themselves as oppose to downgrading others they will be in a better place. This isn’t just a black woman problem but a societal problem.
Worry about yourself not what the next person is doing.
4- The Mirror doesn’t lie
The statistics say 42% of black women are not married.
So understandably people want to know why.
The convenient excuse is “the black man” or a “lack of good black men”.
They are waiting for their perfect black man, but alas there aren’t that many around they say.
I don’t knock preference. If as a black woman you want to married a black man more power to you. Far be it for me to say you have to date outside of your race, not my place. If you want to wait for that perfect black man I wish you luck, but I am going to let you in on a secret.
Whereas I am sure the main preference of a lot of black men is to have a black woman in the interim they will have no problem dealing with a white, Spanish, Asian, Karadashian or blue avatar woman.
And if any of the above treat them well they will wife them up and never look back.
The first thing people should do not just black women, when trying to figure out why they are single, in a bad relationship or not married should do is look in the mirror.
During my twitter debate over 100 black women chimed in (I went back in counted) and some of them I know personally. While they were taking shots at black men some failed to mention the following:
A- One only dates athletes.
B- One says she can’t date a man making less than 100gs a year.
C- One goes to the club every Friday/Saturday 52 weeks in a row.
D- One proclaims loudly she has cheated on former boyfriends.
E- One claims to be a feminist, but openly admits should would sleep with rappers if approached.
F- One is dating a married man.
G- One has a bi sexual girlfriend she doesn’t want to give up.
I could go on, but you get my point. The thing is I don’t knock any of those things.
Once again if you want a 100g man or a NFL player more power to them, because it is their preference, but don’t complain about the plight of black women when the reason you are in the situation you are in is because of you and you only.
As a black man I have more “built in” excuses than any race male or female in the world. You know how many times black men are told they can’t do something because they are “black”.
If as man I fed into all of that negativity and blame game it would be impossible to be a success in our society.
Racism is real, just like ignorant self hating black men are real in regards to how they treat and feel about black women, but you can’t use that as an excuse for the failures in your relationships.
Don’t focus on what black men can do better, let him worry about himself. Worry about you being the best person you can and you won’t have to look for happiness, happiness will find you.
5- This isn’t a war
Someone asked me this and I skirted around answering it because it didn’t have anything to with the point I was trying to make , but I think it is important to talk about now.
The question was if two women were equal in every way and one was black and one was white which one would I choose.
The answer is easy.
100 times out of 100 times I would choose the black woman.
But that is hypothetical situation that can never happen because no two women are created equal.
So you just have to go with your gut feeling and it is easier to do that when you don’t feel pressure one way or another.
I am very careful on how I speak on issues like that. Very careful not to be disrespectful or call anyone out of their name (even though shockingly women have no problem calling me a lot of things). This isn’t a war and I am not trying to be insensitive to the feelings of black women. My daughter is black and I would never want someone disrespecting her because of her race or devaluing her.
But I try to teach her that value and self worth comes from within not what some man thinks.
I apologize for all the horrible black men that are out there. If I could I would beat them all down for you.
I apologize for all the nohos that are giving black women a bad name.
Sometimes when I tweet or write I am so focus on bring attention to some of the foolish things some black women do I forget to also focus on the many positive things black women do.
I understand it is hard. All I have to do is look at my boys and how they treat women to understand it definitely can seems like dire straits in regards to black men/women relations, but it won’t get better if we continue to blame and fight with each other about something as trivial as what race we are dating.
It is a known fact that almost all my major accomplishments have been assisted by the help women and more times than not black women.
So I don’t want the reputation of being a “black woman hater” because that isn’t the case.
I am an honest person and maybe to a fault very blunt and direct. To the point sometimes my thoughts come off as harsh and insensitive. Especially in a social medium such as twitter where you can’t write a 2000 words article to explain everything you say.
If there is one thing I wish I could go back and change is when I said:
“I DON’T CARE ABOUT THE PLIGHT OF THE BLACK WOMAN.”
It isn’t that I don’t care, because there are real issues out there for black woman that definitely need to be address. Real serious issues and some of those issues are because of black men. I am not naive I understand that.
What I don’t approve of are black women who blame there every problem on black men, because I don’t believe black men can be used as a crutch for every problem of the black woman.
I find it hard to believe that black women would not agree with me on that point.
I have my philosophies and my opinions, but none of it is based off hate, but based off trying to bring people to a truly color blind society.
That might be an impossible goal, but for the sake of our future as black men and black women I hope that isn’t the case.
Is She a Ho or Entrepreneur? You Make The Call
July 5th, 2010I want your opinion on this. This is a true story I am not making anything up, so lets get started:
This young lady is named Tierra. She is a “Web Model” (no porn, but nudity). She has a website:
Pretty young lady, not knowing her personality, but just basing off her looks I don’t think too many guys would not try to holla at her. With that being said there are millions of young ladies like her walking around. Nothing that special about her.
A friend told that he knew a guy that was buying her a gift for Christmas. Not because they were friends (in fact he has never met her), but because she asked on her website.
In the age of bathwaterslurpers I wasn’t shocked by this, but decided to take a look for myself to see what she was asking for. Here is word for word her “wish list” as she describes it:
Any of you who know me well enough know I love getting gifts and being spoiled! Every day when I get something in the mail it’s like Christmas all over again! Most clothing and lingerie on my wish list usually ends up in photos and videos. So if you want to see me in something sexy handpicked by you, visit my Amazon wish list. Sending me gifts is pretty much like saying “I love you!” My favorite colors are gray, black purple and of course pink. I enjoy expensive and big gifts but I am absolutely addicted to lingerie and shoes. I must have over 200+ pairs of heels and I love love love shopping sprees! Below is a link to my wish list with over 1150+ items purchased and growing, as well as some of my favorite stores to shop at that you can send me gift cards to.
Email Gift cards
Email Gift cards to Tierra@club-tierra.com
Amazon
Macys
Victoria’s Secret
Gift Cards by Mail
Send all these types of cards to my mailing address which is posted at the bottom of this page.
HELP BUILD MY HOUSE!!
At the young age of 21 I am already building a castle! Gift Cards in any amount will help me out!
Home Depot
Lowes
Buy my Groceries!
Albertsons
Pear Kroger
Safeway
The above cards and concealed cash and fan mail can be mailed to:
Tierra Marie
19030 Lenton Pl. S.E. No.228
Monroe WA 98272
Send Me Cash Directly!
There is no doubt about it; every woman loves cold hard green cash! I can get whatever I want with it. Here are a few methods I use for receiving cash gifts. If you have one you would like to use contact me! I have plenty more secret methods that are available upon request 
Send payments to Tierra@club-tierra.com
Green Dot-COMING SOON!
Check out some of the gifts I have already received from all my fan boys and subs!
Send all gift certificates to – tierra@club-tierra.com
Spoil me through Night Flirts!
As you see there is a link to everything she has supposedly gotten from men:
http://club-tierra.com/brag.htm
Diamond Rings, PS3, Mac Book, Shoes, Clothes, Watches, Purses, vacations, straight cash and much much more.
So I did some investigation and the model in question has a boyfriend and these gifts are giving just off the strength of some “internet foreplay” and in some cases just because she asked.
The question begs:
Is she a ho?
Is she an entrepreneur?
What does it say about the men who give the gifts?
Is it trickin if you got it?
Bathwaterslurping on steroids?
We will talk about this on Twitter tonight, but please leave your comments here so I can add them to conversation tonight.
