Posts by LexiTalks:
Is Kim Kardashian Bad in Bed?? by Lexi Talks
January 29th, 2010“Dead Lay” Kim K.
Bwahahahahaha!!! I can’t help but laugh. The other day I was sent the Kim Kardashian sex tape, again Bwahahahahaha. Any time I see her name my first thought is “Dead Lay” and “Poor Reggie”. My heart goes out to him for a few reasons. (Bwahahahahaha) Now don’t get this wrong, I’m not just writing something to bash Kim K. but to bring focus to women and men who just cannot let themselves go so that they can receive the ultimate satisfaction. Read the rest of this entry “
He’s Not Your Man! New Year’s Eve Truth By Lexi Talks
December 30th, 2009New Year’s Eve, the biggest night of the year for couples. There is a saying that whoever you’re with on New Year’s Eve is who you will be with for the rest of the year. New Year’s Eve does not lie; it is the night that will tell the truth. How’s this; So you think he’s your man? You’ve been hanging with him many days and nights throughout the year. You both have had so much fun and good times. Yes there have been days that he has been MIA, but there has always been a good reason or excuse. The man is busy, he’s a business man; athlete; entertainer and/or he has so many family obligations. Maybe he has a baby mama which means he has kids. Now we all know that he’s such a great father so he spends so much of his time with his children. You can’t even try to deny him that. Oh, and how selfish you would sound if you dared to question his time with his children. (he’s probably still hitting the mama, I’m just saying)
Well, let me share Crystal’s story. She’s been dating Ben for 3 years. Ben is an executive for a large bank. Ben is a bit older than Crystal and he’s divorced for about 8 years. He has an adult daughter in college. Ben also travels quite a bit which Crystal has joined him on several occasions. She’s even accompanied him to one of his company Christmas parties (Wow, that’s special). Ben and Crystal usually touch bases everyday and they spend time at each other’s home. Ben speaks of how one day he’d love to settle down with Crystal, but…
Crystal has a seven year old daughter from a previous relationship. The father is very much in his daughter’s life, but it has never caused a problem for Crystal and Ben hooking up. Well along comes the new friend Lexi who has no problem calling things as she sees them (Well she asked). Now Crystal begins to look at this relationship as it really is. Ben has never, in three years spent any quality time with Crystal and her daughter together. Says he’s not ready to play a role in her daughter’s life just yet. Crystal also see’s that her and Ben have never spent a full day together on Christmas and maybe only half of all the other holidays have they been together. Ben would always be traveling or needing to share his time with his aging father and his lonely divorced sister, both of which she has met before.
It’s about three weeks before New Years and Ben has not made any conclusive plans with Crystal and she’s beginning to wonder what is really going on with this relationship. Am I really his lady? Does he really want to move forward with us? Why hasn’t he ever spent any time with my child if he really wants a future with me? So many questions with no answers.
Well she asked my thought and I gave her this. “Barring any legitimate reasons, If he is not with you on New Year’s Eve, He Is Not Your Man”. (for all my critics, there are a few exceptions, but in general this is true) I have seen this statement come true for so many ladies, so sad. Trust me, I know many men who have a way of leading Double Lives the whole year, but when New Years Eve comes around The Truth Will Set You Free.
For Crystal, about five days before New Year’s Eve, Ben called and said that he was going to take his father and sister to Vegas of New Years. That his family had a bad year and he wanted to do something special for them. Poor Crystal was too hurt to ask why she wasn’t included in the plans. Plans which probably were made long before then, Hell she couldn’t guarantee if he really was taking his dad and sister to Vegas. Now Crystal is thinking about the last two New Years Eve, she and Ben were not together for either one. Hmm, he always had some convenient excuse.
Will you be with your “so-called man” on New Year’s Eve? If not, what is the excuse This Time? I’d pretty much say “He’s Not Your Man”.
What Are You Doing For New Year’s Eve
Black Men With $$$ + White Girls = Out Of Luck Sistas?
December 7th, 2009Brothers with money, Sista you ain’t got a chance!
Yep, I said it! I know some sista is cursing right about now, but the odds of a Sista ending up with a Brother with money, is Very Slim. Interracial Dating is a touchy and controversial topic for both men and women of all races. Before you look at my picture and pass judgment on this article I’d like you to know that it is a collaboration of several women and men, of different races. Nothing here is absolute or 100%, but is based on what we see as the majority.
It seems that the vast majority of the time when you see a black professional male athlete or entertainer and their significant other, the chances are the significant other is not a black sista. It is usually any other race besides a sista.
Why is that?
Some time ago there was a Jet Magazine article that profiled a professional NFL player having Thanksgiving dinner at his home. What stuck out as odd was that out of the 15 or so family members around the table, the only one that was black was the athlete himself. I remember thinking, “Wow that looks really strange, I wonder does it look strange to him also?” “Just where is his side of the family?” This family/relationship portrayal of the Rich & Famous, Athletes/Entertainers is still quite typical. Again, Why is that?
We believe the main reason for the majority of black males who reach a higher status level is that he is now able to get what he ‘perceives’ is the ultimate in a mate. This may be conscious or sub-conscious. There is no question that society views Caucasian/European/Exotic women, hell anything other than a black more beautiful than a “Black Woman”. This doesn’t mean that black women are not beautiful. Society’s views are apparent by what is portrayed on T.V. and what is showcased in magazines. Hence, the perception of the ultimate beauty. This perception did not just begin and to really get to the root of it one has to actually go back to “Roots”. Roots meaning way back to slavery days when white women were considered a gem; untouchable; forbidden; and better. The Prize!
White women were the cream of the crop, the protected species, especially protected from the Black Male. Everyone knows the history of the black male who crossed that line. This made the ‘look’ of the white woman to be something that was lusted and desired. The ‘look’ meaning their white skin; long silky hair, cat colored eyes, etc. Now just like Eve in the Garden of Eden, anything that is perceived as forbidden or more pleasing to the Eye, ‘you just have to have it; taste it; consume it’. This belief has been embedded in the minds of our forefathers and has continued to this day, whether it is spoken or unspoken; conscious or sub-conscious it’s there. So when some black men say they are attracted to what is considered ‘fine’ or ‘hot’, it very well may be true. They are attracted to what society has deemed to be beautiful, the non-white woman. Yet, there are some men who struggle with dating or marrying a white woman, for them they usually end of getting a mixed female or a black female of the lighter complexion. And, Halleluiah, there are and always will be some black brothers who do love and are only attracted to the black sista. Some other reasons are laid out in the article Black Men+ White Women = Truth.
Therefore, when a lot of black men acquire fortune and/or fame they also get their ‘Prize’. That prize is not a ‘Sista’.
Years ago on the series Twilight Zone there was a episode called “Eye of the Beholder” which has to do with perception. Please take a look at this movie and let me know what you think, I encourage your dialogue on this touchy subject.
Watch 6. The Twilight Zone – Eye of the Beholder
Link to movie, http://www.veoh.com/browse/videos/category/entertainment/watch/v6316436GQ6CawaR
Are You ill? Infatuation, Love or Lust
November 23rd, 2009ill – Infatuation, Love, Lust
Which one am I in?
I’m in Love or am I? Many times men and women, especially women, say they are in “Love” when in reality they are in “Lust” or even “Infatuation” with someone. I have found myself in each of the titles at one time or another. Having to think about where I’m really at with my feelings. For me, all of them can be fun and exciting when it’s reciprocated. Why is it that we sometimes feel that we’re in love when it’s infatuation or vice-versus? Who doesn’t know if they are in love? It feels like love. It’s so easy to figure out the difference when you are looking at your friend’s situation. Oh how I have laughed when a friend has told me how “in Love” they are with someone and I scream out,
“Honey Please, that’s lust!” In the case for females, I feel the ultimate goal for them is Love, no matter what that say or how hard they try to be. Men are more complex than women because they are driven by their lower head, but at some point later in life they are truly interested in love. For this article I am basically exploring “ill” one-sided, not necessarily reciprocated. When it is reciprocated it is way more intense. Let’s explore the difference between ~ “ill”:
Infatuation ~ I believe “Love at First Sight” is infatuation. There is much joy, excitement, and intense passion in the beginning. It’s short-lived usually doesn’t last more than six months. Often confused with the feeling of love, but in most cases it is one-sided, meaning the other person is just the object of one’s desire that is not attainable. If there is some kind of relationship, there is a feeling of uncertainty, suspicion and lack of trust. Infatuation doesn’t always end up or get to sex, although that is the desire.
Love ~ The foundation with purposeful intentions and carries many emotions. There is strong affection and attachment for the other person. Love makes you smile and feel happy from the inside out. There is genuine care and concern for the well being of the other person. Love has more to do with your actions towards someone and how your actions will affect them. Love is respect and always wanting the other person to be portrayed is the best possible manner. True love doesn’t intentional hurt, is considerate and in most cases will be by your side through enormous challenges and struggles. Love wants to be with the person as much as possible not just for sex. There is nothing greater than Love.
Lust ~ Aaaahhh lust! This is what the majority of us feels these days. Lust is the fleshly desire for Sex, sex and more sex. It’s the inordinate craving for, or indulgence of, the carnal pleasure. Intense, hot, steamy, unbridled sexual desire describes lust, so exciting and fun. When you mainly think about a person’s physical appearance and body parts, that’s lust. When you’re not concerned much about conversation or your conversation is pretty much about the sexual things you’re going to do to one another. Just pure physical pleasure is lust. Lust can cause one to lie to get someone in bed. Generally, a healthy love relationship never develops or lasts from a lust affair.
Now, which are you in right now?
The 10/2 Sex Position Explained by LexiTalks
November 16th, 200910 to 2 Position
What is the 10 to 2 Position? In my recent article “SEXTIPS” one of my #sextips was “Learn the 10 to 2 position for giving her oral”. That #sextip was all the buzz on Twitter.
Here you go fellas (and ladies): When engaging in oral sex on her focus on more than just surface of the clitoris. Gently glide your tongue around the head of her clit and think about the 10 o’clock and 2 o’clock. Mark those positions on her clit and gently glide your tongue beneath the hood of her clitoris. Trust me, if done correctly and gently you will have her squirming and moaning with ecstasy. Serious banging the clitoris makes it very sensitive, so if you focus on those two delicious soft sweet spots will have her going and going thanks to that hidden bulb underneath the hood. The best position for this thrill is for her to be atop you and straddle your face. This way she can control the level of action as you lay back comfortable and feel the shower of her Orgasmmmmmm.
The Exclusive Sex Tips Guide From LexiTalks
November 5th, 2009BREAKING LAMPS TIPS
written by LexiTalks for BreakLamps.com
Aaahhh SEX! The topic we love to discuss. I recently had a discussion with some ladies that have never or very rarely experienced an Orgasm. I was totally shocked and that is pretty hard for me. One lady said that when she gets to a certain level of excitement and begins to shake she would have the man pull out. WHAT!!!! I was floored, could not believe that. “Are you crazy” I said? “Girl, you were on the brink of the “BIG O”, why stop it?” Whatever the reasoning she gave made absolutely no damn sense to me and kind of went in one ear and out the other ear.
I enjoy sharing my knowledge and information I’ve learned about sex and relationships with people. I feel everyone should be able to enjoy themselves as much as I do. So, the other night on Twitter the Trending Topic was #sextips. Since we’re all consumed with sex for the better part of our time, you can guess that the timeline was jumping with #sextips. WOW, what a fun night that was.
Now, today I noticed several #sextips recommending watching Trey Songz video ‘I Invented Sex’. I hadn’t seen this video nor recognized the song title (sorry). Because I consider myself somewhat of a Sexologist, my first thought was ‘what could this young guy show or tell me that I don’t already know’? Then I thought about all those lovely ladies who are so deprived and might learn something so, I decided to take a look at the video.
So here goes:
I first viewed the video on mute, on purpose. The video was very romantic and looked liked to people having fun, enjoying each other, seductive and yes, it included FOREPLAY. All the elements of Great SEX! Definitely reminiscent of many times I have experienced. What struck me is there are still men and women, young and old that don’t practice the Art of Seduction or Foreplay. I realize that people have their own likes and dislikes, hell that’s what makes us all different, but if you’re not being satisfied these days it is time to change gears and spice it up. For me, I concentrate on pleasuring my partner and in return he automatically pleasures me to the upmost. Everything won’t work for everyone, so one has to do what feels good to them and PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE.
I decided to list several #sextips that can be used by him or her, some my own and others from what was tweeted. The #sextips never end. Open your mind, do something different and have good SEX!!!!!
#SEXTIPS:
#sextips Kiss and lick her inner thighs
#sextips Hold her butt cheeks and spread them open
#sextips Be open to try anything at least once
#sextips Give him sex anytime he wants it
#sextips Never be intimidated by a sex toy
#sextips 69 is a Great Number!!!
#sextips Fuck her with your tongue
#sextips Learn the 10 to 2 position for giving her oral
#sextips Sometimes use ice chips, peppermints, hall menthol when giving head
#sextips Stimulate your partners G-Spot
#sextips Blindfold your partner and tease their body with a feather or silk
#sextips Continue foreplay until Orgasm
#sextips Sex immediately after she Orgasms is riveting
#sextips Be vocal. Moan faster, slower, softer or harder
#sextips Talk dirty, they love it
#sextips Bite her on her ASS
#sextips When climaxing from Behind, Bite her back or shoulder
#sextips Give a tongue bath, stroke down the spine
#sextips Variety is key. Go hard one day and soft another day
#sextips Porn is Good, watch it
#sextips Raise your lower body to meet his thrust
#sextips Ladies, use your vagina muscles, especially as he climax
#sextips Ladies relax and let the orgasm cum
#sextips Too many to list
