How To Pick Up Women In The Club

For a long time my “Pimp Focus” was very poor in club type settings and the reason was very simple.

My greatest strengths when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex are my:

Communications Skills

I am an ok looking guy and I am not a baller so if I am getting women it is on the strength of my personality.

The club dilutes that because it is loud, crowded and filled with drunken people so it is very difficult to hold any type of meaningful conversation.

So for years when it came to club it was my Kryptonite.  I never liked going to the club any way seemed like a waste of money (probably because I didn’t get any chicks), but just like most things I figured it out and I am going to share it with you.

The great thing about these guidelines is you can use them not just at the club, but any place where there is a big group of people or where holding a conversation is pretty much impossible.

1-      Quality over Quantity

I never forget going to a 1^st Friday with a couple of friends. My one friend Ahmad obviously was a “quantity guy” because every woman that walked passed him he would grab.

The classic arm grab has been a club staple for many years and I highly suggest you never use it.

Girl after girl turned Ahmad down until finally one very average looking girl took pity on him and give him her number (which turned out to be fake) and that is when he uttered the classic phrase:

“1 out of 53 not bad.”

Here is the thing, females notice when you look desperate.  Getting turned down by 52 girls is not something to be proud of.

Don’t treat the club like a meat market focus on quality over quantity and your chances for success will increase.

2-      Be aware of your crew

If there are a group of five guys and four of them are acting like fools it is very likely females will consider the fifth member a fool as well.

When you are going out to a club pay attention to who you are hanging with.

If you are traveling with the fellas the less the better and they need to be independent guys.

Nothing looks worse that three or four guys standing on the wall looking confused and doing the “arm grab” as females walk past.  Don’t be afraid to break from the crew, you aren’t 5 this isn’t a field trip to the zoo you can explore on your own.

If possible I would suggest going to the club with at least one female.  This female needs to be:

A-     Gorgeous (at least an 8 or higher if possible)

B-      Someone you have no chance to break lamps with.

The reasoning is simple females will be curious why she is hanging with you and that leads to the:

“She is very pretty and she is hanging out with him, so he must be cool.”

Which once again enhances your chances.

It also gives you someone to talk to and give the appearance you know what you are talking about.  Plus if she is a cool female friend she will give you tips and pointers on which girls to go after.

3-      Get in free & get to VIP

If the club is poppin there is going to be a line and there is nothing that nohos noticed more than someone walking right past them while they are standing outside in their “Freakum Dress”.

Going into 2010 trust me it isn’t that hard to get into places free as long as you have facebook and twitter you should never pay to get into a club again.

VIP use to be special, but not anymore they let anyone in VIP if they know how to go through proper channels.

The days of being in VIP meaning you can just wave your finger and get a chick are over, but it puts you in a better position than the non-VIP guy.

My friend Jay use to pay for VIP, sometime up to a $100 until he hung with me in ATL and we didn’t pay a dollar for one club or one drink.

Step your club connection game up.  I haven’t paid to get in a club since 2007.

4-      ID the Chicks you want to talk to

Remember you want quality over quantity because it isn’t a good look to holla at every woman you see.

A good number is three and out of those three you want to make a good connection with at least one (of course all three would be one).

You have been able to eliminate some women from the pool to help narrow yourselection.  A lot of that depends on what type of man you are, but for example this is who I eliminate:

A-     Finest chick in the club- Normally she knows it and is just there for the attention (there are exceptions to this rule).

B-      The Male Hating female group- That is the group who just came to the club to tease men all night because they have low self esteem.

C-      Married/Taken women- Not trying to get shot, so even if she is lying about it I am moving on.

D-     Professional Club Noho- The chick who knows everyone in the club and who is a regular.

E-      The Hoodrat- She is easy to spot; she dances with no shoes on.

After I eliminated all those girls I am going looking for my three.  I am looking for someone pretty, who smiles a lot, who isn’t overly drunk, who dances but doesn’t look like she is part of the Twerk team and whose outfit is classy sexy.

Rank them in importance between 1, 2 and 3 then it is time to go to work.

5-      The Smile and Go

This is the key part and if you can master this you will succeed more than you will fail.  Your young ladies will be getting approached a lot so you never directly approach, not yet at least; you have to gauge their interest through non verbal communication.

Get into position where you can make eye contact, don’t stare, but look in their direction when you lock eyes:

SMILE

What you are looking for is a smile back or anything type of positive non verbal communication.  Of course if she frowns or does anything negative then immediately “X” her out.

But for the sake of the article lets say she smiles back.  After she does immediately move from your location.  If you came with a female friend talk to her or go to the bar, but leave your location.

Most women assume that you would approach, but that puts them on defensive, so just chill out for a little bit.

After some time has passed, find the female you are interested again and repeat the same procedure.  Just a smile followed by you doing something else.

What you are doing is lowering her defenses and raising her curiosity.  Now don’t do this 30 times or she will think you are a weirdo stalker the max you do the “Smile and Go” is twice.  This will help you immensely in the final steps.

6-      Sherlock Holmes Approach

The worse way to approach a female is immediately speaking on a body part i.e.:

“Damn girl you got a fat ass.”

You have to use deductive reasoning and keen observation in knowing what you are going to say when you finally make your approach.

Find something about the female that is unique about her and not obvious i.e.:

“Girl you eyes are beautiful.”

That would be great if the chick didn’t have green eyes and hears that everyday.

Complementing her on her outfit, a piece jewelry she is wearing, her smile, her perfume are all effective.  Just make it unique for her and always contrast what you are saying against the other females in the club that is critical (women have an ego too, shocking isn’t it).  Wait for the perfect opportunity and move in fast don’t hesitate.  An example of what you could say would be similar to this:

“You know I notice you a few times while walking through the club and no disrespect to your friends, but you have the prettiest smile in here.  I know you with your crew so I won’t keep you, but I just wanted to make sure I told you that before I left.  This not really the place to get to know someone, but I would appreciate if I could give you a call sometime.  Because either I am right about you and you are cool or you are crazy and you will stalk me, either way I am willing to give it a shot.”

If she laughs you are good get the information and bounce (if you are in the advance stage you can give her your business card trust me she will Google you).

Similar to a bank robbery you need to get in and out as efficiently as possible.  The worse thing you can do is linger, confident men move on and act like it isn’t a big deal.  Don’t get overly excited she should feel good you talk to her.

Repeat this with your next two ladies if you followed the program success is likely on all three.

7-      The Ending

Whatever you do, do not call, text, BBM or anything while you are in the club.  What you do though is when you get home you send a “courtesy” text saying that you hope she made it home safely and you hope to hear from her soon.

If she wants to talk to you, you will hear from her within 24 hours (of course the sooner the better) and if you don’t delete her number.

Women know immediately if they want to continue the conversation outside the club, so if she doesn’t contact you, she was just polite giving you her number or it is was a fake  number.

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Follow these guidelines and your Pimp Focus at the club will be at a Break Lamps level.