Black Men + White Women = Truth

You might not like what I am about to write, but it needs to be written and I think I am uniquely qualified to handle this subject.

Until I was 14 years old the only white women I ever saw was at my mom’s job.  Then I was shipped off to a private catholic predominantly white High School where in four years there was only seven black girls that attended  the school (and they weren’t cute).  From that point I moved on to The Ohio State University the second biggest university in the United States.  In my four and half years there I was expose to every type of woman known to man.

I grew up in the hood (Natural Bridge & Kingshighway in STL ask about me) & now have lived in the Burbs of STL for the last five years.  I’ve been in the music industry & now currently in the sports media.   Two of the most corrupt industries in regards to how women are treated regardless of race.

I have traveled from coast to coast.  North, South, East and West I have seen it all.

I have friends who might have gotten married strippers pregnant and friends who are just like “Tiger Woods”.

I have dealt with  females of a broad spectrum.  From the bottom of the bottom to the top of the top.

So when I break this down I am basing this off years of not just my experience but the observations of others.  There are four main reasons why black men deal with white women (when I talk about white women I am talking about any woman that isn’t black) and I am about to share them with you.  You may or may not agree with them and you can feel free to comment below:

Reason #1- White women are easier to deal with than black women.

This could be considered an urban legend, but the perception for some black men is that black women are difficult to deal with.

Another way to look at that is that black women won’t put up with as much BS, but since we are talking about men we will stick with what they think.

These black men think that white women are easier to get, easier to manipulate and easier to seduce. 

As my friend James told me once:

“With a white girl when I tell her I am going out all she tells me is to be careful and never blows up my phone.  With a black girl she is constantly paranoid and it gets old.  I rather keep a white girl and just screw around with black girls they are too much to deal with.”

It doesn’t appear to be any “hate” toward the black woman just more of these black men believe it will be easier not to deal with them.

This type of black man has no problem “breaking lamps” with a black woman or hanging with a black woman but when it comes to “relationships” he will take, in his mind the easier route of dealing with a white woman.

Now how accurate this assumption, that white women are easier to deal with is up for debate, but there are black men who truly believe it. 

Reason #2:  White Women are all they know.

I call this the “Tiger Effect”.  You are a product of your environment regardless of your race.  Black or not if all you see around you 24/7 are white women you will probably be more inclined to date white women.

When I was in high school all that was around me were white girls.  So I had dated white girls.  It wasn’t that I didn’t like black girls it was that I didn’t have any to choose from.

Of course when I got out of high school my selection expanded, but for some black men it never does.  If you grew up around white girls, went to school around white girls you probably going to prefer white girls.

I have absolutely no issue with that.  It is just a preference normally not breed out of anything against black women.

Reason #3: Black Men that want to be white.

This is the most disturbing reason.  There are some black men who just don’t want to be associated with being black.  So they do everything they can to disassociate themselves away from their race.

One major way to do that is to have a white woman on their arm.  Their reasons for dating white women have more to do with how they feel about their race as oppose to their preference of women.

These type of black men  say things like this:

“I would never date a black woman I don’t want to seem ghetto.”

Of course I believe these black men should be punched in the mouth, but I digress.  Personally I don’t care what a man’s preference of woman, but to exclude a race, based on your own self hate is very weak minded.

These type of black men rarely have anything positive to say about black women instead they constantly looking for negative aspects about them.

In reality they are talking about themselves but they deflect their self hate on black women.  Which if course says more about them as men than anything else.

They are so concerned with trying to be something they are not, that can’t see the good, not just in black women, but black people in general.

These are the type of black men who give other black men a bad reputation in regards to this debate.

Reason #4 – She is hot

There is this contention from some black women that:

“Black men should date within their race.”

That is foolishness.  Men should date the best person for them regardless of race.

If there are two equal women in all areas and the last determination is looks, I am going with the woman who looks better.

On the flip side if two women looked exactly the same I am going to choose the woman who I feel is a better personality match for me regardless of race.

Sometimes it isn’t complicated it is just some black men are color blind when it comes to women.

It is just a peference nothing more, nothing less.

Once a black woman asked me:

“What race do you prefer?”

My answer:

“The Fine Race”

She seemed confused for a minute, but it triggered with her that I didn’t have a preferred race.

 Some men just like women regardless of the shape, size or color.

I mean this in the bottom of my soul.  If the earth was invaded by a race of green alien women I would be the first one trying to get my “pimp focus” on as long as she had a pretty smile and I could teach her about football.

Just call me Captain Kirk Littal.

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Hopefully that gives you some insight and you can feel free to weigh in on the topic either here or on the Break Lamps Twitter.