ill – Infatuation, Love, Lust

Which one am I in?

I’m in Love or am I? Many times men and women, especially women, say they are in “Love” when in reality they are in “Lust” or even “Infatuation” with someone. I have found myself in each of the titles at one time or another. Having to think about where I’m really at with my feelings. For me, all of them can be fun and exciting when it’s reciprocated. Why is it that we sometimes feel that we’re in love when it’s infatuation or vice-versus? Who doesn’t know if they are in love? It feels like love. It’s so easy to figure out the difference when you are looking at your friend’s situation. Oh how I have laughed when a friend has told me how “in Love” they are with someone and I scream out,

“Honey Please, that’s lust!” In the case for females, I feel the ultimate goal for them is Love, no matter what that say or how hard they try to be. Men are more complex than women because they are driven by their lower head, but at some point later in life they are truly interested in love. For this article I am basically exploring “ill” one-sided, not necessarily reciprocated. When it is reciprocated it is way more intense. Let’s explore the difference between ~ “ill”:

Infatuation ~ I believe “Love at First Sight” is infatuation. There is much joy, excitement, and intense passion in the beginning. It’s short-lived usually doesn’t last more than six months. Often confused with the feeling of love, but in most cases it is one-sided, meaning the other person is just the object of one’s desire that is not attainable. If there is some kind of relationship, there is a feeling of uncertainty, suspicion and lack of trust. Infatuation doesn’t always end up or get to sex, although that is the desire.

Love ~ The foundation with purposeful intentions and carries many emotions. There is strong affection and attachment for the other person. Love makes you smile and feel happy from the inside out. There is genuine care and concern for the well being of the other person. Love has more to do with your actions towards someone and how your actions will affect them. Love is respect and always wanting the other person to be portrayed is the best possible manner. True love doesn’t intentional hurt, is considerate and in most cases will be by your side through enormous challenges and struggles. Love wants to be with the person as much as possible not just for sex. There is nothing greater than Love.

Lust ~ Aaaahhh lust! This is what the majority of us feels these days. Lust is the fleshly desire for Sex, sex and more sex. It’s the inordinate craving for, or indulgence of, the carnal pleasure. Intense, hot, steamy, unbridled sexual desire describes lust, so exciting and fun. When you mainly think about a person’s physical appearance and body parts, that’s lust. When you’re not concerned much about conversation or your conversation is pretty much about the sexual things you’re going to do to one another. Just pure physical pleasure is lust. Lust can cause one to lie to get someone in bed. Generally, a healthy love relationship never develops or lasts from a lust affair.

Now, which are you in right now?